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Self‑Care Sunday: When the People We Expected to Stay… Don’t
This week’s Self‑Care Sunday conversation holds space for a tender and often unspoken part of grief: the moment we realise that some of the people we thought would stand beside us after the loss of a pregnancy, baby or child… simply don’t.
Over the years, many of the parents have shared that the deepest hurt doesn’t always come from the loss alone, but from the silence that follows — the friends who, ignore or dont include you in a message, or group, when it feels like they have all drifted away, the family members who avoid the subject, friends who think you should "move on" and the people who “don’t know what to say” and so say nothing at all. It can feel like a second loss layered on top of the first. We know, so breathe, we got you!
Lou - "If I personally had to sum it up, it's 'Cruel and heartbreaking', and then I would add stop making it about you! No, I have just deleted and blocked in the past, to be honest, and I felt great relief from it too. But that was what was needed for me personally, and I lived on pins and needles for days about the repercussions. They never came, so when I reflect, I think wow, and then I realise that I like who I am today, and thank them for making me stronger, mentally, and physically, never mind emotionally, I learnt to face so much more than I ever thought possible. It was worth the journey! " Luanne 💚 Baby Loss Mum & Advocate
In this week’s Self-care Sunday discussion, Admin will gently explore, and please feel free to share, comment too:
How it feels when support doesn’t come from the people we expected
Why do some relationships change or fall away after loss
The loneliness that follows — and the strength it takes to name it
The unexpected comfort found in online communities of other bereaved parents
How connection, understanding and solidarity can grow in the places we least expected
This space is for honesty, reflection and compassion. Whether you’ve been let down, lifted up, or found your people in the most surprising corners of the internet, your experience matters here. You’re welcome to share, listen, or simply sit with others who understand.
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